Posted one year ago today-
Into a holding pattern
The diagnosis came in today.
A has an agressive thyroid cancer. It will require an complicated surgery to remove and will then be followed up with radiation. From what we were told, he can't return to a part 121 airline until 1 year after completing treatment. And he's 5 weeks from being at the company 1 year, which would afford us some better protection and benefits.
My head is spinning
Thursday, February 26, 2009
Friday, February 20, 2009
Little Dirty Secrects
Ms. I-never-watch-tv-because-I- don't-want-to-be-tied-to-it-and-nothing-interests-me has fallen off the wagon. Off a cliff. I've seen every episode of American Idol, Season 8. And I sit with my son and rate the contestants during the show. I guess if I'm going to go down, I might as well make it big.
A has become quite the house-husband. He does all the housecleaning and laundry. And makes Kidzilla lunch and me tea in the morning. And drove me to work yesterday b/c I didn't want to drive in the rain (lingering issues from a near fatal crash in 2001). Don't be jealous b/c he also spends most of the day doing god knows what with little to show for it.
I was always scared to apply to a grad program because I thought I wasn't smart enough. Then I met some people with advanced degrees and realized that it probably wasn't going to be a problem.
Every time I look at my legs I wonder- good lord, when was the last time I shaved these babies? And I can never remember. I think it's because I never have that "he's coming home tomorrow, I'd better get all prettied up" feeling anymore. You know, when it's the last day of the trip and you look around in a panic and think "crap, I've got to get me and this place cleaned up before he gets home". Now it's more like- if it doesn't bother him, it doesn't bother me.
A has become quite the house-husband. He does all the housecleaning and laundry. And makes Kidzilla lunch and me tea in the morning. And drove me to work yesterday b/c I didn't want to drive in the rain (lingering issues from a near fatal crash in 2001). Don't be jealous b/c he also spends most of the day doing god knows what with little to show for it.
I was always scared to apply to a grad program because I thought I wasn't smart enough. Then I met some people with advanced degrees and realized that it probably wasn't going to be a problem.
Every time I look at my legs I wonder- good lord, when was the last time I shaved these babies? And I can never remember. I think it's because I never have that "he's coming home tomorrow, I'd better get all prettied up" feeling anymore. You know, when it's the last day of the trip and you look around in a panic and think "crap, I've got to get me and this place cleaned up before he gets home". Now it's more like- if it doesn't bother him, it doesn't bother me.
Thursday, February 19, 2009
99% is good enough for me
I received an email from Florida State University yesterday that said "your application has been reviewed and recommended for admission for the Fall 2009 Masters program in Social Work". I'm still waiting on official word from the Office of Graduate Admissions but as a co-worker said- I'm like 99% in.
Tuesday, February 17, 2009
Stressors on Pilot Wives- Who's not an expert?
I was very happy to visit my local library to pick up my long awaited copy of “The Sources of Stress on the Wives of Commercial Airline Pilots”, published in Aviation, Space and Environmental Medicine, April 1985. Because of the age of the study (24 years), I was curious to see if the stressors then were the same as what I perceive as stressors now. Sadly, they are similar.
The study was done by British researchers on wives of members of the British Airline Pilots Association. Sixty percent of the pilots were employed with British Airways and just over half of the pilots were Captains. The purpose of the study was to asses the impact of the pilot’s job on the personal and life satisfaction of his wife.
Then, as now, the number one stressor was “domestic role overload”. No surprise there. Feeling like a one parent family, difficulty involving husband in this he has missed and feeling rejection and upset when husband is tired all made the list. “Fear of Husband’s Job Loss” came in second on the list. “Threats to Marital Relationship”, “Distance from Husband’s Career”, and “Job’s Impact on Social Life” rounded out the 5 major factors. Looking at any pilot wife forum today, these five topics come up repeatedly.
Surprising to me, lack of communication during time away was not mentioned in the survey. I would have expected that in the time before things like cell phones, instant messaging and skype that communication would have been very limited and that would be a stressor for wives as well. With modern communication, it is much easier and cheaper to stay in touch and involved.
Researchers also found that working wives were less vulnerable to the stress and life dissatisfaction than full- time housewives. They hypothesize that pursuing one’s own career achievements is seen as a positive source of personal and life satisfaction that counters some of the negative aspects of being a pilot wife. They also found that wives of pilots who work for smaller airlines experienced more dissatisfaction than those of pilots of larger airlines. This was linked to the work demands and schedules of smaller airlines where were less regular and more changeable and thus more disruptive to family life.
The overall conclusion was “it would appear that the wife of a pilot most at risk of personal and life dissatisfaction is a full-time housewife who feels that her husband’s job places undue strains on her in terms of her domestic role without the compensations of a satisfactory social life. This may be exacerbated by the fact that her husband may be working for a small airline and that the industry may be contracting, placing her husband at risk of job loss.”
If you want to read the article yourself, any librarian should be able to help you special order it based on the citation I gave at the top of the post.
The study was done by British researchers on wives of members of the British Airline Pilots Association. Sixty percent of the pilots were employed with British Airways and just over half of the pilots were Captains. The purpose of the study was to asses the impact of the pilot’s job on the personal and life satisfaction of his wife.
Then, as now, the number one stressor was “domestic role overload”. No surprise there. Feeling like a one parent family, difficulty involving husband in this he has missed and feeling rejection and upset when husband is tired all made the list. “Fear of Husband’s Job Loss” came in second on the list. “Threats to Marital Relationship”, “Distance from Husband’s Career”, and “Job’s Impact on Social Life” rounded out the 5 major factors. Looking at any pilot wife forum today, these five topics come up repeatedly.
Surprising to me, lack of communication during time away was not mentioned in the survey. I would have expected that in the time before things like cell phones, instant messaging and skype that communication would have been very limited and that would be a stressor for wives as well. With modern communication, it is much easier and cheaper to stay in touch and involved.
Researchers also found that working wives were less vulnerable to the stress and life dissatisfaction than full- time housewives. They hypothesize that pursuing one’s own career achievements is seen as a positive source of personal and life satisfaction that counters some of the negative aspects of being a pilot wife. They also found that wives of pilots who work for smaller airlines experienced more dissatisfaction than those of pilots of larger airlines. This was linked to the work demands and schedules of smaller airlines where were less regular and more changeable and thus more disruptive to family life.
The overall conclusion was “it would appear that the wife of a pilot most at risk of personal and life dissatisfaction is a full-time housewife who feels that her husband’s job places undue strains on her in terms of her domestic role without the compensations of a satisfactory social life. This may be exacerbated by the fact that her husband may be working for a small airline and that the industry may be contracting, placing her husband at risk of job loss.”
If you want to read the article yourself, any librarian should be able to help you special order it based on the citation I gave at the top of the post.
The $90 gas cap
Last week the check engine light went on in my car. I immedietly started to panic that the engine was going to drop out of my car at any moment or something equally horrific. Every time I drove it, I would get anxious. We took it in to our favorite car repair place to have it looked at. By the time they ran the check, got the light turned off and replaced the stripped gas cap- $90 gone.
Like I couldn't have found something better to spend it on.
Like I couldn't have found something better to spend it on.
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